I'm curious. Why is it automatically assumed that if you're into social networking, you have to be looking to hook up?
For years, I had a MySpace account. I'd only set it up so I could start a blog, but I received regular messages in my inbox from guys--some personal, but most sounding suspiciously like a message that was sent out to every female on the site in the hope the sender would get a few nibbles on his line.
When William started his blog there, he got relationship spam the first day: a PM from a young woman claiming he was the one for her. She was willing to relocate, anything for him.
Him and probably 5000 guys who received that same message.
We don't miss My Space. We don't see that sort of crap on Blogspot. The worst nuisance we've seen here so far is that dopey guy who goes around posting messages to follow HIS blog. As if we actually might. Don't hold your breath, buddy.
Facebook has a few relationship spammers, but overall is fairly creep-free. I've had to deal with someone from my past who seems to think because he read one of my novels years ago, I'm obligated to put everything else aside and arrange an in-person meeting with him. Don't get me wrong. I enjoy meeting people who have read my books, but this fellow seems to think he's special to me. And that makes me a little nervous.
William has the funniest tale of unrequited lust--though at the moment, he's not finding it at all amusing. William, who just turned thirty, is the object of affection of a sixty-five-year-old grandmother who makes no secret of her, uh, how do I put this, hots for him. I commented on what I thought was a harmless crush, only to get a response that had us both wondering just how much of a problem she might become.
It can be tough for a young guy, having his buddies making fun of him because he's got an old lady crushing on him.
We only signed on at Facebook to create a presence there and promote our work. All right, a lot of lonely people look for Mr. or Ms. Right online. We did not. Not all of us are here to hook up. Please, be sure the person you've got in your crosshairs is interested before you begin active pursuit...or like Pepe LePew, that poor, lovelorn skunk, you could find yourself in an endless pursuit of a frantic cat who only wants to get away from you.
Being rejected is no fun, whether it's face-to-face or in cyberspace....