Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Writers Karma: What Goes Around Really Does Come Around

Above all, writers need readers. But we also need each other. The support and camraderie shared by writers is invaluable...after all, no one understands the highs and lows of this crazy business more than other writers. Rejection? We've all been there. The frustration of finding an agent? Not many writers get signed with the first one they query. Getting published? The wait for a contract can be the worst experience we'll ever have. Especially if that contract never comes. When I wrote and sold my first novel, I didn't have that kind of support network. I didn't even know there were any local writers groups, and we didn't have the internet. It was my agent who taught me the importance of networking...and I'm so glad she did!






Now that we have a new option--self-publishing--there's a whole new set of issues to deal with. There's choosing how to publish and with whom...making the books available...marketing...social media...and now, more than ever, we need each other.






Most writers understand this. I've been fortunate to be part of a wonderful group of writers who support and encourage each other. Right now, one member of the inner circle is dealing with overwhelming family issues. The rest of the group has offered her understanding and whatever else she may need. Another is about to launch a new book and wants to do a blog tour. Several of us have offered our blogs to get him off to a good start. Collin has designed most of our covers. William does my editing and Beth's. Mike knows more about promotion and marketing than any of us. Beth formats the books. We all buy and review each others' books. Yesterday, I finally got around to getting a start on my Pinterest page. I started with book covers--my own and friends' covers. So did Beth. 


But as in any other profession, there are divas--writers who are all about themselves. They don't buy or review other authors books and try to claim we only give each other good reviews because we're friends. After all, we couldn't possibly be giving honest reviews if we didn't give them five stars, right?






They don't comment on others' blogs, but they wonder why no one is commenting on theirs. They don't buy others' books but can't understand why we aren't lining up to buy theirs. When asked to use their blog for a blog tour, they expect to be paid--even if the blog in question doesn't have enough traffic to warrant payment for its use.  ("But I have to charge you. You'd be taking up MY valuable time." What an ego!)


Yesterday, I had an experience that was beyond stupid. I made a mistake with an idiotic Facebook quiz that resulted in a baby diva making a complete fool of herself rather than simply deleting the unwanted posting.  A non-issue became an issue. The baby diva was rude and unprofessional. "Please don't post anything on my Facebook page that doesn't directly pertain to ME. When people visit MY page, they have to see ME. Just ME! Why don't you love ME????" 






I'm paraphrasing here, but this is the gist of it. Princess has to be the center of attention. Even if she has to stomp her feet and act like an idiot to get there.


I won't say that no successful writer has ever been a diva. There are more than a few...but they became divas after achieving success, when people were (for the most part) willing to put up with their behavior. Diva behavior in someone before they've achieved success is usually the kiss of death for one's career. What goes around really does come around...and when the author karma train derails, look out!




What goes around really does come around...good and bad!



21 comments:

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    1. Blogger strikes again! Evie, your comment was meant for the Venus transit post, right? I'm not sure how it ended up here! And I got messages on my phone for three comments, but when I logged on to approve them, only two were there....

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  2. Hope you are doing well... Norma - and yes, I lived with a Diva in my early years. When we left the nest we went as far away as we could. Karma can be a real ****. ;-)

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  3. I agree. We have to stick together, to support each other in our writings. Yes, I get my back up when another author that I've taken the time to read their book, doesn't bother to read mine or review it. But, I've learned that in that case, I just won't read and review another one of their books. No, friends don't have to give all 5 star ratings...but, to just not bother isn't being supportive. I know far too many like this.

    I'm glad that we have each other. Thank you.

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    1. Any writer who thinks they can pull off a one-sided support network is in for a huge disappointment, unfortunately.

      We are lucky, aren't we?

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    2. We are!!! ((Huge Hugs to you))
      :o)

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  4. Excellent post, Norma! Unfortunately we have these divas out there. And we do need each other. I can't understand how a writer could or would not help out another writer if possible! Writers are writers and also readers and fans of each other. We need this support, and sometimes just to help each other through our creative dark moments. Thanks Norma for always being there! You are terrific!

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  5. Unfortunately all too often we let our own egos take control of us. And when that happens, mistakes tend to snowball.

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    1. Ego goes hand-in-hand with the creative force. But most of us manage to keep it in check.

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  6. I know I get a fair amount of stuff coming into my inbox that can be overwhelming. It's very easy to delete rather than make a big deal out of it.

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    1. I get frustrated with the volume of Facebook notifications. I had the same problem at WD. I couldn't stop them, I suppose because I'm one of the Admins at WMD, so I started having them all sent into an email account I don't really use anymore. Once a week, I dump the entire Inbox content unopened.

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  7. I'm always amazed at how helpful the circle of blogging writers are. I've never come across a more generous group. Those that don't want to be part of that are missing out. I love my bloggers.
    Sounds like your group is being very clever sharing your strengths in book publication :)

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    1. Thanks, Charmaine! I consider myself very fortunate to have the blogger/writer friends I have!

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  8. I have found amazing support from other authors. They understand the horse-trading one must do with almost everything... family, sales, reviews. They also understand the email priority thing, which is good.

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  9. I totally agree with you on all accounts. Word-of-mouth is so important in many industries, and particularly in the writing biz where people don't have tons of money to throw around for marketing. I also believe in karma in the world in general, not just with this sort of thing. And I am sure this diva will get her comeuppance and will one day be thrown off her high horse. I say, just keep doing what you're doing (as you obviously do it well) and forget about these people. They're not worth the energy!

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    1. Thanks, Carla! One diva has made it clear she believes herself to be in the right, so I don't see much hope for her. The other is young and still has a chance to prevent her career from being derailed by her actions. Time will tell.

      I went the diva route myself for a time. I wasn't on a star trip, just trying to keep from getting painted into a professional corner (it's a long story, one I'll save for another post). No matter what the reason, though, the end result is the same and it serves no one, especially the author.

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  10. Such a great point, Norma. We really do need each other so much. What a helpful group you have there with so many talented peeps. I think thats outstanding!

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