Sunday, January 11, 2015

Reflections on the Year Gone By...and a Look Ahead

I know, I was supposed to have posted this a week ago. Or was it two weeks? If it had been one of my New Year's Resolutions, I would have already blown it.


The year has gotten off to a dubious start. Just this past week, for example--I switched insurance carriers, so when I went to the pharmacy to pick up four prescription refills on Monday, I gave the pharmacy clerk my new insurance card, and he added the information to my file. No problem there. The problem came when Collin stopped on his way home from work last night to get two more refills for me. He didn't notice it, but I checked the receipts and found they'd billed my old insurance carrier. I phoned the pharmacy this morning. I got a call back a short time later. Problem resolved...or so I thought. I just got an email from them, letting me know they have two new prescriptions for me--the same two Collin picked up last night! They didn't just change it on my record, they filled them all over again!

Yep, 2015 is getting off to a brilliant start.

Now, as for 2014...I discovered I spent too much time dwelling on the calendar. When I was a kid, I couldn't wait to grow up. "Don't wish your life away," Dad would always tell me. "The older you get, the faster it seems to pass." And he was right.

Eighteen and twenty-one were especially special birthdays for me. Looking back, I don't know why they were such a big deal. Things didn't change all that much. My twenties were a special time--I was twenty-four when I got pregnant with Collin, twenty-five when he was born. I hadn't planned to have children, but once I knew he was coming, it was a real game-changer. He was the best thing that had ever happened to me. My thirties got off to a great start--I'd set a goal for myself, to sell my first novel before I was thirty-five (for the record, I was thirty-one when it sold, thirty-five when it was published). I traveled a lot. I worked at home, setting my own hours. Collin was healthy and happy. Thirties, forties, fifties...they were just numbers to me. Sixty, now--that was a different story. Mom was sixty-nine when she died. I started to wonder if I'd be around in another decade. It's a depressing thought.

Last week, I remembered something. Longevity runs in the family, Mom not withstanding. Her father made it well into his eighties. Most of her siblings did, as well--some made it even further.  Okay, so I'm epileptic and my blood pressure tends to be a little too high--I don't drink or smoke (Dad drank heavily for the first ten years of his retirement and he and Mom smoked like a pair of matching chimneys for as long as I could remember). Hmm...I might have more years left than I thought!

I've got my priorities in the right place for the first time. Who say you can't teach an old dog new tricks? When I sold that first novel, it was all about the money, the bestseller lists--and I had both. It was about possessions, recognition. Had those, too. But sometimes, you have to lose everything in order to find yourself. So here I am at the start of 2015, with a new set of priorities, more content than I've been in a very long time. I don't need to be rich. I don't want to be rich, just comfortable. I've stopped trying to be someone I'm not, just to measure up to the expectations of others. I can't remember the last time I wore makeup. I live in jeans and t-shirts. No more deadlines--I self-publish, writing what I want to write when I want to write it. And no matter what anyone says, my online friends are as loyal as any I've had in the "real" world. I'm simplifying my life a little more every day--like today, I closed out all but two of my blogs--this one and one at Wordpress, which will be a duplicate of this one (I confess, I couldn't give either one up--I have the most followers there, but I get the most comments here).

Life is good. Here's wishing all of you a fantastic 2015!

PS Those of you who have this blog set to Follow will probably be flooded with a bunch of posts today. I'm incorporating posts from my other blogs (which will be shut down later today). I don't know how to avoid this tsunami of posts. I'm a technmoron!


24 comments:

  1. Simplifying is a good thing. I'm working on that this year as well and paying off a personal 6 thousand dollar debt.

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    1. Simplifying is going to be the easy part, Shelly.

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  2. Wonderfully said. Given that you don't drink or smoke, even with epilepsy and the blood pressure issue, given longevity trends in the bulk of your family background, you've got good odds of being around a good while.

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    1. One of my doctors once told me I was too mean to die, another said I wouldn't give anyone the satisfaction, and a longtime friend said God doesn't want me and the devil won't have me, so....

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  3. When we're young, the things we hanker after are a lot different than when we get older and wiser. When we're older, we've learned that material things really don't matter. I wouldn't be nineteen again for anything!

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  4. I've lost the capacity for the intense feelings I once had. Of course, that means I no longer lose my temper like I once did. That is a good thing. Have a wonderful year everyone.

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    1. I've still got a temper, but it's not nearly as bad as it used to be. I just keep reminding myself: "stroke waiting to happen."

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  5. Super interesting post today.
    Coming to an understanding what the heck is going on in your life and what you need or want is the first step. Some people (the x) will never get this.
    You take care of yourself !

    cheers, parsnip

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    1. Figuring out what really matters can take time, but the discovery is worth the effort.

      You do the same, Gayle!

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  6. You need a Like button. Sometimes that's all I have to say!

    Happy 2015.

    Alicia

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    1. I wish Blogger did have them, Alicia--my WordPress blog does. Sometimes, we just want to let the bloggers know we've been there but don't really have a comment. Happens to me all the time.

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    2. I'm so happy you're keeping this blog too Norma, I don't seem to be able to connect all that well to Wordpress, but I'm not seeing all the 'flood of posts' you talked about above.. Isn't a fab when you get to that point in your life when you realize the only person you want to be is yourself :) would be better if we got to that point a little sooner would save a lot of anguish.. and money :)

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    3. Of course I'm keeping this one, Grace!

      I can do more with this one, like the No Bullshit and Train of Thought buttons on the sidebar. The flood didn't happen because I haven't been able to transfer the posts from Wordpress yet. I might just do them one at a time.

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  7. Contentment. That is genuine wealth!

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    1. That it is, Lynn. No bestseller list or publisher praise will ever replace it!

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  8. Great reflections. I think your tech skills are so above mine that if you are a techmoron, I am not sure what I would be called.

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    1. I have something better than tech skills, Carole. I have Collin! I just hand it to him and say, "Fix it, please."

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  9. Insurance... don't get me started. I've yet to get the first correct bill, since I changed plans, so I don't even know if I'm covered, right now. So, I'm trying not to get sick.

    It's good to uncomplicate things, Norma. I'm slowing down too.

    I'm glad to know someone who was published in the traditional way. I've always wanted that, and it never happened for me. I'm working to get a new publisher who takes Indies. In fact your name appeared on their facebook page, (I think), They're called "Creativa". But they've only begun looking at my first book. I'm in a waiting mode, now. Just not able to do Indie like the rest of you.
    Happy 2015 back at you!

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    1. Oh, Lorelei, don't you just love all the red tape? I could do a whole blog post just on what happened with two prescription refills in the past few days. I cancelled a cardiology appointment while trying to figure out what the copay will be (he's not in my "network"). Thankfully, I don't see my neurologist until April.

      My name was on that publisher's Facebook page? That's puzzling. I've never heard of them. Maybe I had better check that out.

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  10. This is weird because I commented on this post, only in my email, I got a failure to delivery. Dunno. So I resubscribed to your blog, maybe that will help.

    Here's to 2015 & Boogie Boogie :-)

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    1. Hey, Ivy--I wondered where you'd gotten to!

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    2. I have no idea but something wonky is going on.

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    3. This is very, very odd. Sometimes this shows up as a Wordpress in my dashboard and other times blogger. And if I comment, it's removing them?

      I don't get it.

      What I'm gonna do is take you out of my dashboard for now, and see if bookmarking works.

      I'm stumped.

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