Tuesday, May 26, 2015

He's Going to be One Ugly Woman....

I don't get it. Maybe it's my age, or maybe it has to do with my upbringing...but I don't understand anything about the idea of gender reassignment. When I was growing up, we never heard of such a thing. I didn't know anybody who seemed the least bit confused about their identity, gender-wise or otherwise. I didn't even know what "homosexual" meant until I was in my early twenties and a newlywed friend went home one day to find her husband in bed with another man. 

 
Suicides or attempted suicides were almost unheard of where I come from. The aforementioned straying husband did attempt to take his own life once, some time after the divorce--because he said (at the time) he didn't want to be gay. His ex and I found him and got him to the hospital. She had to locate his family, who were all away for the weekend, sending the local sheriff to their lake house. I was at the hospital when they arrived. I got the distinct impression his mother would have preferred we let him die so it could all be kept quiet. He did survive--but was unanimously rejected by his entire family. 

That was over thirty years ago. I have no idea where he is now, or if things were ever resolved for him. I felt bad for him--and even more so for his ex, whose life was seriously messed up by being used to hide his secret from his family. She used to say, "It's bad enough to have your husband leave you for another woman--but what are you doing wrong when he leaves you for a man?" I saw her go through a long period of drinking and dangerous promiscuity with men she met in bars--sometimes, she didn't even bother to ask their names. I always thought she was trying to prove something to herself.

These days, I'm even more confused--by couples who don't reveal the sex of their children, allowing the child to decide for themselves. Decide? That was decided before they were born! We get either two X chromosomes or an X and Y. That doesn't change, no matter how we change our external appearance. No wonder kids are so messed up these days. I was always a tomboy--my parents discovered early on that I wasn't "girly" by any means and didn't often play with dolls. I liked toy horses and trucks and going to the construction sites when Dad was building houses. But I was a girl. I knew I was a girl, I accepted it, and I never had any desire to change that. I still hate wearing dresses--haven't worn one in over twenty years--but I'm not gay and have no desire to turn into a man. I just like being comfortable.

Okay, there are times I've felt it would be more convenient to be a boy--there are things we girls have to deal with that guys don't ever experience, and most of the time, they're not stuck having to use icky public restrooms. They can just find a secluded spot at the back of a building and take care of business. But again, I've never even thought about making any major changes to the plumbing.

I wonder what makes someone willing to undergo extensive, expensive and dangerous surgical procedures. There's not much I'd be willing to risk my life for--in fact, the only way I'll go under the knife is if I'm told I'll die otherwise. For a man to become a woman involves taking estrogen for the rest of their lives. Given the risks for menopausal women posed by hormone replacement therapy, I wonder how much one's life is shortened by the use of hormones necessary to maintain their female appearance. Is it worth the risk, really?

There's a storyline currently running on The Bold and the Beautiful--messed up fashion heir Rick Forrester, having made himself the victim of two failed marriages to women he "couldn't trust," has fallen hard for model Maya Avant. He's the last to discover that Maya was born Myron. She explains to him that she was always a woman on the inside. In real life, most heterosexual men would have kicked her to the curb, but the show's PC writers have made him go totally out of character and accept it with almost no hesitation.

And then there's Bruce Jenner--I lost track of how many times that story appeared on TV in a single day. I'm not a fan of the Kardashians, but I have to admit that they are a bunch of attractive women. One would have to be extremely secure to end up the lone ugly woman in that group.

Seriously, I don't believe in persecuting anyone--but I can't say I understand any of this, or that I can be supportive of it. That's partly my age, partly my upbringing, and partly my beliefs. Changing one's gender is like telling God He made a mistake. That's the one place I won't go.


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  1. Poor Bruce. I agree with you but still feel sorry for him.

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  2. I'd have more sympathy for him if he hadn't inflicted the Kardashians on the world.

    Somewhere in the back of my mind is the lingering suspicion that this is all a grab at attention to keep them in the limelight for years more on end, and nothing more.

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    1. You may be right. There isn't anything Kris Jenner wouldn't do for publicity, and Bruce has always been right there with her in the center ring of the Kardashian circus.

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  3. Definitely a grab for attention. And gays have always been around; it just wasn't done to come out and admit it back then. Most people nowadays understand you can't change your sexual orientation. I do wonder, though, that when a man changes to a woman or vice versa, whether or not s/he ever wishes s/he could go back!

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    1. I know; homosexuality is mentioned in the Bible. I was just clueless about it.

      I've wondered about that, too. I won't even get a tattoo because I always figured I'd change my mind after I got it.

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  4. I was certain that the Good Lord was in error when he made me a girl. By the age of twelve and one-half there was no denying it, plus all that strength I had left. I could no longer lift one hundred pounds. I accepted my fate, but continued to be independent. Thank goodness, as the man I wed (45 years together) couldn't handle people who cried or assumed the other knew what one was thinking. The upshot? After thirty years we did know what the other was thinking. Your friend couldn't accept the fact that she was not to blame for her husbands choices. I've known two women like that. As for gender change, I'm completely perplexed as those I've seen retain most of the original gender qualities.

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    1. I've noticed that as well, Mari. Surgery and hormones can only do so much.

      I'd like to be tall and thin with thick red hair and green eyes--but that just isn't in the cards. Am I jumping off a bridge because I can't have what I want? No. Would I spend a fortune trying in vain to achieve it? Again, no. We are who we are. God gave us what we have for a reason.

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  5. Hard choices but you are what you are.
    Daughter is gay and a feminist.
    Gender changing is just way to weird for me.
    As for the Kadashians I wish they would just change and go away.
    Bruce should just live his life the best he can out of the spot life.

    cheers, parsnip

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    1. He's in his sixties now. As Sharon Osbourne said, "Why bother at this point in the game?"

      Someone asked me what I would do if Collin were to tell me he was gay. I told them he's my son and I would love him no matter what. We don't have to agree with anyone on everything to love them...or even to like and respect them. If we only associated with those who agreed with us on all things, we'd get pretty lonely.

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    2. Sharon can be so funny.
      I know you love them no matter what. I adore my Daughter, she is a hoot !
      On the other hand her father does not ever mention her. She is dead to him. What a loser.

      cheers, parsnip

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    3. I could never disown my child...no matter what.

      My father would have.

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  6. I can understand where you are coming from Norma, as I was raised similar to you. There are things we cannot understand, and today's world is really a mess. At the same time, no one should be persecuted and people have a choice to do as they wish but also people have a choice to voice their opinions, so I am glad that you are freely speaking your mind. I do have gay friends and they are my friends because I accept them as a human being. Each person chooses their lifestyle and their choice is for them as we are all free to choose, whether we disagree or not.

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    1. I knew I'd be walking a fine line with this post, Lena. I'm possibly the least politically correct person you'll ever meet. I don't jump on bandwagons just because the cause is a popular one or a PC one, but I don't want to offend friends who don't share my opinions, either.

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  7. Back in the mid seventies, I remember scratching my head over Renee Richards who changed from man to woman. He had been a tennis player apparently, then after the change he played professional woman's tennis. Just because he took female hormones and had the contents of his underpants redone didn't make him/her eligible for woman's tennis.

    Anyway. I agree with you, Norma. Some things are awfully confusing.

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    1. I think an overly permissive society is the culprit, Lynn. Parents who allow their kids to "choose" their own gender are doing their children a disservice. Young children don't have the mental maturity to make that call. And how does one refer to them until they decide? He or she is off the table. How about "it?"

      If our children grow up in a world without values or rules, confusion is inevitable.

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  8. I think we are so lucky that we don't understand because I can't even imagine how hard it is to have to live your life feeling like you are the wrong sex...

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  9. It's as complicated a subject as mine is today Norma :)

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    1. I just saw yours, Grace. It is, indeed!

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  10. It's as complicated a subject as mine is today Norma :)

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  11. I have to say, Norma, I agree with everything you've said here. I grew up a tom boy too. I didn't want dolls to play with, I liked the toys my little brother got, instead. That, and crayons and coloring books. I didn't like--still don't--like wearing dresses. I have some, but I always feel like men stare at me more and I don't like being stared at (but old men always stare at me no matter what I wear).

    I know women who are either gay, or there's one that would rather not be called a woman. I'm not sure what she wants to be called, and her husband seems fine with this.

    A sign at NIU used to display a sign for women's help center, it's now called "Gender" something or other.

    Yeah. I'm glad I was born in the fifties. I'm also glad I don't have children growing up today. I think it's completely different and too confusing.

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    1. I stopped pretending to understand years ago, Lorelei.

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  12. Norma, we live in a fallen world. We are the generation that is likened to the days of Noah. It's Satan's way of messing up what God created. I've been studying the book of Enoch, Jasher, and the Book of Jubilees. Where the Watchers created angelic-human-hybrids and animal-human hybrids. This is one of many reasons why God sent the flood. It was to destroy the hybrids.

    Today, scientist are mixing human DNA with animal. We've got robots where we can now download a human's memory into it. An Italian doctor claimed a few months back that he could take the head of another person and put it on someone else's body. We have GMOs. Weather can be controlled as a weapon. We have Nephilim technology where morals do not exist anymore. God is becoming obsolete in our society.

    In Exodus, God told Isreal not to mix their threads or to cross breed their crops. God also said men who dressed as women and went to bed with a man as a woman was an abomination. And same with the women.

    I feel terrible for the gay people. I know God loves them but he gave his law. It's all a mess. I know. I have gay friends and they are sweet people but so deceived. I pray for them. America is under a massive spiritual attack. We're in trouble big time because of many reasons.

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    1. Good post! And don't worry what others may think. Say what you know to be real.

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