Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Parents, Please Send Your Children to Obedience School!

That one's gonna get me into trouble, I think.


Not too long ago, there was a story that made the national news--the owner of a restaurant in Portland, Maine got enough of a screaming child and, when the parents didn't do anything about it, she sounded off at the child. The kid finally shut up. By all accounts, that was a huge relief to the restaurant staff and other diners. But opinions on social media were divided. Some applauded the owner for taking action. Some said no matter what, she was out of line for yelling at a child under any circumstances.

Me? I'm on the owner's side.

It may take a village, but when it comes to putting up with other people's unruly kids, I prefer the hermit lifestyle to being part of the village. I've had to deal with unsupervised kids here in our apartment complex, with parents who not only don't discipline their kids but encourage bad behavior. Even after the police were recently called, the kids are still a problem. 

I've been in restaurants where loud, disruptive children caused other diners (myself included) to get up and leave without eating. I've been in a situation where some kid tried to take things, including food, off our table and the parents still did nothing. Of course that's going to make restaurant owners and managers angry, too. They don't want to lose business because somebody chooses to let their kids run wild. 

This establishment in England has the right idea. (Okay, they went for a humorous response, but the message is clear!)

 
If I had behaved so badly when I was a child, Mom and Dad would have immediately taken me home. When Collin was little, he was always well-behaved in public. Well, almost always. There was one tantrum--it lasted all of a minute. Had he been a problem child, though, we would have been getting our food to go. 

Tell me what you think. Should unruly children be allowed to ruin restaurant meals, movies, etc. for others, or should proprietors be allowed to make the parents take their kids and leave? 

 

13 comments:

  1. I know I wouldn't put up with it. I have a very low tolerance threshold for kids throwing tantrums.

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    1. So do I. I love my own son with all my heart, but I confess, I don't love everybody's kids. Especially not the bratty ones!

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  2. I do remember getting yelled at by a patron after I decorated his shoulders with my spaghetti.

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  3. Not only in restaurants... I spoke up in Borders once where the sweet darlings were playing war with the stuffed animals.
    I asked them did they or were they buying them ? because they were destroying them. How could the store sell dirty stuffed toys ?
    You would have thought I had told them them no more hamburgers ever. I guess they had never been told to behave. One of them left then in a few minutes I hear a voice calling them from way over in back of the shop ?
    I also love my children by I don't not like many of what passes for children today or there stupid parents.
    I was wondering how you survived Halloween with the monsters/crack kids that populate around you.

    cheers, parsnip

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  4. No. Children should not get a free pass to behave badly just because they are children. If an adult was screaming or running around a restaurant he would be asked to leave unless he calmed down. If a parent won't correct his children that doesn't mean innocent bystanders should suffer.

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  5. Eve: How old were you when you did that?

    Gayle: Parents these days are far too permissive.

    Halloween was no problem for us. The brats all know better than to come anywhere near our place!

    Lynn: Exactly! No has the right to inflict their ill-mannered children on anyone else. If they don't want to make them behave, they should keep them at home!

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  6. Eve: How old were you when you did that?

    Gayle: Parents these days are far too permissive.

    Halloween was no problem for us. The brats all know better than to come anywhere near our place!

    Lynn: Exactly! No has the right to inflict their ill-mannered children on anyone else. If they don't want to make them behave, they should keep them at home!

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  7. My two were pretty well behaved also when dining out Norma, so thankfully we didn't have that problem. I think a lot of young parents these days are scared of 'limiting' their child's expression or creativity or something, which is a load of old rubbish.. You can actually be creative AND polite :)

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    1. I think you're right, Grace. Also, in the US, if a parent even gives their kid a light whack on the bottom, people start yelling "Child abuse!"

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  8. Back in the day it wasn't illegal to slap/hit a child. I'm not sure we should go back to that, but doing nothing at all is not the way to go. I keep wondering if the shoe were on the other foot. Would they have said, "Oh how cute." ???
    I'm with you, NOrma.

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  9. It's not the kids' fault. It's the parents.

    I'm sure the parents have been working and want a nice evening out, but so do other customers. When a kid misbehaves, it's up to the parent to contain it. If that means one parent taking the child and sitting in the car while the other parent/rest of family eat, so be it.

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  10. Lorelei: Too many parents nowadays have no consideration for anyone else. Everyone is supposed to accommodate their kids, for better or worse. When I was growing up, kids were never allowed to be a bother to other people. We had to respect the rights of others.

    Cheryl: It is the parents' fault. And it's about time they started acting like parents. Kids don't learn right from wrong on their own.

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  11. Big applause for you, Norma! No child's born a brat. It's learned behavior from the parents/guardian. Too often I've seen that when these apples that haven't fallen from the tree act up, the parents glow with pride, like aren't they so sweet and adorable? No, they're not! They're obnoxious, like the parents, the same parents who usually tout "family values." HA! Kids who are raised right have manners, know not to be rude and behave like little human beings, not monsters. Yes, there can be slip-ups, but proper parents know to take the child outside until h/s calms down -- and, if that doesn't work, they go home! Like William, I have a low tolerance for bratty kids.

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